How to Choose Friends — Shaykh Ibn Baz

Al-Allamah ‘Abdul-‘Aziz ibn Baz (rahimahullah) was asked:

My problem is in my relationships with people. There are some whom I feel comfortable with, and I enjoy their company and find in them a friend and companion, and I feel at ease being with them, but they are few. There are others whom I know but cannot stand to sit with, talk to, or feel comfortable around at all. I find that my nature does not agree with theirs. Sometimes, I have to stay with them, talk to them, and interact with them due to kinship or work, or other reasons that force me to be polite and show friendliness and comfort against my will. While being with them, I feel the need to force myself in conversation and behavior, which I am not good at, making me more averse and distant from them, and uncomfortable. Thus, I have come to prefer avoiding everyone I am not comfortable with as much as possible, which leads to some isolation. I feel at peace when I am alone and make use of my time reciting the Qur’an and reading beneficial books.

Al-Allamah Ibn Baz (rahimahullah) answered:

You should do what is best for your heart and choose good and virtuous companions. As for those you feel averse to, whose nature does not match yours, and whose company you do not enjoy, avoid them. Choose what is best for you, even if it means staying at home to read the Qur’an, engage in tasbih (saying “Subhanallah”), and tahleel (saying “La ilaha illa Allah”). A believer should hold themselves accountable and strive to be in the company of good people and stay away from evil ones. Choose the best use of your time and the best companions. Strive for what is best for your faith and safest for your religion. Accompany the righteous and conceal their faults so you can benefit from them, and stay away from the wicked, even if they are relatives, to avoid harm from their company, and do not burden yourself beyond what you can bear.

If you do not desire the company of the righteous, this is a disease in your heart if they are good people of faith. Strive to stay with them and benefit from them, even if you feel some discomfort and difficulty due to your sins because the company of the righteous brings only good. On the other hand, the company of the wicked leads to great evil.

In conclusion, with regard to choosing companions and avoiding others, you should follow the purified Shari‘ah (Islamic Legislation) in what is best and most beneficial for your heart and faith.

Sit with the good, the righteous, and those whose company benefits you, and avoid those whose company harms you, whether they are relatives or others. Your home is better for you than sitting with those who harm you and those you cannot tolerate due to their bad actions, morals, or behaviour. We ask Allah for success for everyone.

Source: Read here on the Shaykh’s website